I have since learned a few valuable lessons about relationships: 1) You’ll never get what you don’t ask for.
I would leave a guy’s house at 3 AM in order to avoid the awkwardness of the morning.
Even on the rare occasion he’d ask me to stay, I couldn’t deal with facing rejection or feeling unwelcome.
A good friend apologized that she couldn’t have dinner because she was completely booked with five separate dates with five unique candidates she’d met on Tinder.
Another friend texted me screenshots of several striking gentleman with whom she’d been deemed compatible, and even shared her Tinder Tales with us here.
During that slightly promiscuous phase of my life, I acquired an alarming number of friends with benefits under the false pretense of fun-and-pleasure seeking.
I denied what I secretly hoped each fling would eventually develop into.
This is why we all need a Dating Mission Statement; something that honestly declares our intentions and expectations without sugar coating them. I defaulted on my identity as a feminist, and my subsequent rejection of traditional gender roles, to justify why I didn’t require certain basic courtesies from potential suitors.
I convinced myself that it made sense to sleep with guys who made no effort to hangout with me aside from predictably showing up at the bar at the same time each night.
In my early twenties, I had it in my head that women who demanded flowers, shiny accessories and clearly defined relationship titles to feel secure and validated were the mortal enemies of feminism.