I doubt that many romantic relationships between staff and clients that may have become public after the client left care, actually started growing only after the client left care.More than likely, those relationships were products of unhealthy and ill-advised (if not deeply unethical) bonding within the treatment environment. Hi folks, As a manager within residential care I welcome this discussion and agree with most of what has already been said.
For the youth to continue to grow, create and maintain healthy relationships, any romantic relationships should be outside of the facility.
If the youth and worker wish to remain connected, there should be no issue with that.
2014 Hi Everyone, If a youth of 20 who has left care starts up a relationship with a young staff member still employed at the facility, is this OK? Well at our center my director teaches us if it does not interfere with your work then it’s ok I guess!! I hope directors can answer this because it’s so confusing.
WOW I can’t wait to hear the answers coz do you say anything or keep quiet ?!
Since the control of the relationship is up to the two individuals these questions might be a good place to start the conversation with them. Whether we like it or not, most ethical codes/guidelines (Canadian Counsellors, Psychologists) say that an intimate client-counsellor relationship should not take place until two years has passed once the counselling relationship was terminated.
After two years they can engage in an intimate relationship. I’m on the anti-dating side, but it isn’t me dating nor do I own a care giving company. The bigger debate would be if you were the parent of the child turned adult would you be happy about the relationship? From: Nathalia Horvath [email protected] not. It is not ok for any kind of relationship to start, other than being a mentor or a support which would usually have to be approved by agency, caseworkers etc...
This question was asked of a colleague during child protection training and I was initially horrified that the question was even asked.
My own view is we are there in a corporate parenting role with the young people we work with, whether as direct care staff or ancillary staff, and it would never be alright to engage in this type of relationship.
Professionally and morally I feel it is akin to a step dad/mum having a relationship with one of their partners children after a break up.
I know this may sound dramatic but we are fulfilling the same function in this young person’s life and what message would we be sending to them and placing agencies if we agreed to five years down the line this going ahead?
This cannot be about us and has to be about the long term welfare of those within our care so for me it has to be a resounding no. Hi Nick, I can think of many reasons why it is “not OK”, but I don’t think that really matters.