October 10, 2017Have your volunteers logged 150 hours in this challenge?
That non-intellectual part is not an insult in the least.
A reader emailed me the other day to ask if I had any thoughts on how to discuss faith with an agnostic spouse.
I don’t want to divulge any identifying details, but a rough summary of his question is this: I am a recent convert to Catholicism and my wife is agnostic.
😛 Since I am that type of person myself, I do draw so much information, knowledge, and edification from reading, listening to, and devouring the types of books and tapes I’ve often spoken about.
At the beginning, lacking any semblance of humility, and even less insight into the different ways people relate, I clumsily offered book after book, apologetic after apologetic argument, tried to get her to watch EWTN, etc.
I feel down about all this and could use some words of encouragement. But the topic still nagged at me, and after re-reading the email I sent I realized that my advice probably wasn’t going to be that helpful. (who recently had some great thoughts on another subject here and here) had been in this very situation in his own marriage, so I emailed him to ask what he thought.
As usual, he was able to distill what he learned from his own experience into some really powerful advice for any new converts whose spouses don’t share their faith.I feel very disheartened that she has no interest in this faith that is to crucial to my life, and that I don’t even have any friends who share my Catholic faith.It seems that whenever I try to be a good Catholic and Christian I get accused of being a “party pooper” or “holy roller”.It was only after my behavior as a husband, a son, a brother, a friend, a person, had drastically changed for the better that she began to become open to the possibility that there might be something to that whole Christianity thing.To her non-intellectual personality, the proof was in the pudding.It was too good not to share, so with his permission I’m posting his advice in case others may find it helpful.