You want that profile photo, unobstructed, just you. The fact [is] we have digital images, there is no reason why one out of 25 photos won't turn out right! However, a serious-faced selfie may make you appear to be self-absorbed by some viewers.
I think that there are great examples of selfies used in online dating profiles out there, but some careful consideration is recommended before you add them to your profile.
It's also the email that sent me on a half-hour-long rant to two (very straight) guy friends here in San Francisco. The following week I received 400 emails, which was not only an overwhelming increase from my weekly average of 40-50, but it also yielded many of the nice men I was looking for. No photos where you have a manic gleam in your eye, or where you seem drunk or even where you're looking arty and contemplative (trust me, you just seem depressed). You want to meet guys who are attracted to you as you are. Don't give away where you currently live, work or go to school (college logos, for example), and NEVER show your home address. You could be at the top of a hike, riding a bike or just jumping in the air.
Amused, they listened patiently as I droned on about the objectification of women. About how all the men on were just looking for arm-candy-bimbos. A few hours later, after enduring the indignity of having them comb through my Facebook albums, they showed me the three photos to post. In my initial photos, my goal was to seem as hot as possible. Also: No photos in which you're holding something weird (ceramic animals, plastic baby dolls, snakes, etc.) or that have been through Instagram or Hipstamatic-style editing. Sure, the lighting is great in your bathroom, and your hair looks fabulous. Don't put yourself into a situation where he thinks you're dishonest at first sight. Sorry feline fans, but you don't want to be pegged as a crazy cat lady. You and your dog show you're active and down to earth. Many men like to be active and physical; you want to show you can keep up with them.
I know that many people who approach online dating might think to themselves, “But when they meet me in person, I’m sure they’re going to overlook all of my flaws.” And although that’s theoretically possible, it’s extremely unlikely that would happen.
Bottom line: looking clean, refreshed, and put-together will make a great first impression.
We are not saying take "glamour" shots or posed studio shots, because they won't reflect the relaxed you.
But [do use] a terrific head shot or even head/shoulder, that has you looking inviting and approachable.
The right photographer will look at the person they are photographing and take into consideration their skin color, hair color, body shape and age.
What you choose for clothing options makes a very big difference...
It turns out that I made the same mistake most girls do when they first go online. Are you half naked with your hands caressing your hair? You had your hair and make-up done, and the professional photography is awesome. Here's what the guys hear you saying: All my friends are married but me. Think of your photos as the cover of your autobiography.