“If they begin to date the woman you were seeing, it can feel like an extra knife in the back. My rule of thumb is that it's fine unless it is a very good friend.
Particularly if you were in a long-term relationship with her,” he says. If it's just an acquaintance from work, and he dated a woman you like, they broke up, then there is no reason why you couldn't date her,” says Sebastian Callow, a London-based dating coach for men. Experts recommend considering how long your friend and his ex dated (anything over six months is tricky territory as the emotional ties tend to be stronger); how old you are (one expert suggested that in our twenties, perceived slights carry more weight than when we're older and “more realistic”); why you're interested (do you lack the self confidence to approach a stranger?
What it does instead is create anxiety, distrust and power-play.
Things that not only hurt your chances of getting back together, but damage your relationship. Do a Google search and see how many people actually heard from their ex, how many of those got their ex back, and how many of those sustained the reunion beyond a few weeks/months.
Question: I’ve read many of your articles and answers and I think n/c if used properly is way more powerful than you give it credit for. There is the right reason and wrong reason to use no contact, if you must use it at all.
When I broke up with my girlfriend April 09 I went straight n/c for 4 months. The wrong reason is to use no contact as a strategy for getting back your ex.
But what if you really, really fancy Sally, to the point you're picturing sleepy Sundays and all sorts of lovely, luscious romance? ); how much stress you're willing to endure; and ultimately what the friendship is worth.
“Friendships typically last a hell of a lot longer than romantic relationships, particularly 'potential' romantic relationships.Sometimes it’s good to give each other a little space, but realize that it’ll not necessarily make the other person want to come back into the relationship. ”If you feel completely stuck after “no contact” or your ex does not respond after several attempts to re-establish contact, chances are you may have done too much damage to the relationship by doing “no contact”.It may even make them realize they’re better off without you. So before you go “no contact” ask yourself the important question, “How do my actions right now help/hurt me later? By the time “no contact” is the only option, the relationship is most likely too damaged to try and get back together.People in relationships that were generally good and healthy, and people who had a no “too much” drama break-ups see no need to cut off their ex.If you have to cut contact every time you break up, you might as well cut your losses and move on (see my article: The TRUTH About No Contact No One Tells You)The right reason (if you must use no contact at all) is for you to distance yourself from your ex so that you can move on — move on to a relationship with someone else.