And the women control the relationship.” of the connection, May-December pairings are a growing phenomenon.A number of Web sites designed to help young men and older women connect.
“I hate that term,” says Cynthia, an attractive woman who looks at least 15 years younger than her chronological age. “It has a negative connotation.” But the topic also elicits some quick, enthusiastic comments. “Because they smell good,” says Cynthia, a slightly built DJ wearing a brown vamp top.
“Because you’re in control of the situation,” says Que.
“We don’t need glasses; we need young guys.” She pauses.
“You’re only as old as the man you’re sleeping with.” We laugh in unison.
She doesn’t feel bound by tradition the way earlier generations did.” And the trend has affected the types of clients who make their way to the Newport Beach office of cosmetic surgeon Terry Dubrow.
“I’ve seen a dramatic increase in the number of fortysomething women doing early nip/tucks because they’re dating younger men,” Dubrow says.Of the four of us at the table—all single and over 45—three date younger men.Gina recently broke off a relationship with a man 16 years younger; Sherry has been dating a man 25 years her junior for nearly a year; I occasionally date younger men of varying ages.But everyone agrees Gibson’s the one who popularized the label, and she defends the American cougar with passion.“We’re strong, we look great, and we’re in control of our sexual lives. The mantra of a cougar is: ‘Don’t call me; I’ll call you.’ ” And in Gibson’s case, the call won’t be to an older man.I search for a place to sit, then notice three 40-plus women at a cocktail table near a window. Although they find younger men attractive and have plenty to say about women their age, they don’t like the term either. “Women in their 40s are awesome,” says Nancy, a well-dressed brunette in a business suit.