If they are in recovery, how long have they stayed sober?Are they actively working a program of recovery (e.g., participating in self-help support meetings, counseling or an aftercare program)?Is it because of who they are and how they treat you, or do you have a history of being attracted to people you can rescue or fix?
Before diving into a relationship, find out if your prospective partner is actively using drugs or alcohol, or if they display addictive or compulsive patterns in other areas (e.g., gambling, work, sex, food or spending).
If you care about someone in active addiction, help them into treatment and hold off on turning a friendship into more until they’re grounded in their recovery.
But before you put yourself in a position to fall for an addict, there are a few things you need to know: For anyone considering dating an active addict, it is important to realize that love cannot conquer addiction.
Addiction takes priority over everything – you, children, career, financial security, even one’s own freedom.
For example, you’ll likely need to avoid drinking or using drugs around your partner.
If you go to parties or events where alcohol is being served, you may need to leave early or offer additional support.
The threat of relapse need not deter you from dating someone firmly grounded in their recovery. By educating yourself about disease of addiction, you’ll know what to expect and when to ask for help.
Being a loving partner to a recovering addict requires sensitivity and discretion.
No one can tell you when it’s time to call it quits except you.