A few years ago, I joined an organization and became close friends with one of the members.Although she partied all the time, I was under the impression that she still had her life together.I have been able to go out with no regrets and I have met more people in the last year than I could have ever imagined.
I spent a lot of time skipping out on friends to be with him during school, and we spent all summer texting and Skype-ing.
But a few months into the new semester, I broke up with him and haven’t looked back.
We all walk different paths towards finding ourselves and the road isn’t always easy. As a teenager, I just wanted my mom to hear me — to listen to my concerns and validate my feelings; but her answer to everything was “be proactive”.
To show you’re not alone, 10 girls, including myself, share their stories and their relationships with their mothers on : Ashley Richardson Hometown: Hempstead, New York Age: 22My mom was an emotional woman, always trying to provide her children with love, light, and full hearts. “So don’t let anybody, especially some boy, treat you like any less.”And yet, even with her constant motivational and inspiring pep talks, I would learn the hard way to love myself as much as my mother did. Over the years I’ve come to understand what my mom meant by this incessant mantra.
But always my regret is replaced by the satisfaction of knowing I would not be as confident or love myself as fully, without fighting to find my own worth. Jenna Maher Mineola, New York Age: 21Throughout my life my mom has always given me the same advice: be proactive. Tegan Mc Roberts Hometown: Sewickley, Pennsylvania Age: 20The best advice that my mom ever gave me and I (foolishly) ignored? I wasn't looking for a boyfriend at the time, but I got caught up in the moment.
For a long time, I didn’t even know what it meant, yet it was my mother’s solution to everything. He was incredibly nice and sweet, and he always compromised.But after a while my grades started to drop and by the end of the semester, I hadn't made Dean's List.While my friend’s grades were poor as well, she didn't seem to care at all.I realized that I didn't want to keep this up for 3 more years.Since we broke up, I have grown incredibly close with my friends again.Whenever I think of my favorite college memories, I think of when I'm with my friends doing new things, not when I stayed in on a Friday to watch Netflix with my boyfriend. I have my whole life to find a boyfriend, fall in love, and (hopefully) get married.