Not continually, but but I get carried away not carried away; I dont want to... What should an enlightened male do to help a presumably also enlightened female into his or her car? WATTENBERG: Judith Martin, also known as Miss Manners, an American institution, we thank you very much for joining us on Think Tank. We have 12,000 scientists and health experts who firmly believe the only thing incurable is our passion. Additional funding is provided by the Bernard and Irene Schwartz Foundation, the Smith Richardson Foundation, and the Lynde and Harry Bradley Foundation.
I have gotten into a lot of trouble over the course of a couple marriages actually of continually interrupting. WATTENBERG: Its the biblical injunction, do unto others others as you would have them do unto you. But then you have to have the imagination to understand that other people have other ideas and circumstances, so its a little more complicated. To learn more about Think Tank, visit PBS online at and please let us know where you watch Think Tank. (Pfizer) At Pfizer, were spending over five billion dollars looking for the cures of the future.
It will be far easier — and less expensive — for your brother to engage in a lasting fight with his relatives than with his wife.
If your brother does, at some point, find out and chastise you for not alerting him, you can rightly tell him that you thought it was none of your business. DEAR MISS MANNERS: Save-the-date cards for my upcoming wedding went out several months ago, and we’re preparing to send formal invitations in a few weeks.
She is the author of the new book, 'Miss Manners Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior.' The Topic before the House: Why Manners Matter. WATTENBERG: Welcome to Think Tank, Miss Manners, also known as Judith Martin. WATTENBERG: I was going to say - but Im sufficiently tuned in to politically political correctness I was going to say, how did a nice girl like you get into a business like this, which is a traditional line, but I said woman. MARTIN: Well, I was immediately before a movie and drama critic and I decided to widen the stage. MARTIN: Well, you know, the expectation that people should be able to turn out good movies consistently, I think its probably at a year if you have a few good movies. When people start hurling insults at you, you know their minds are closed and theres no point in debating. WATTENBERG: I dont know if Im going to call you that or not. WATTENBERG: Give me an example of when you are a traditionalist and when youre an innovator.
Our viewers, I think, would be very interested in your background and I wondered if you could sketch in for us how a nice woman like you got into this kind of a business. Why not critique the whole human drama, and thats what I do. You disengage yourself as quickly as possible from the situation. You can bring out topics that will illuminate the persons opinion if you do it in an open-minded, polite way. Most of what I do is to weigh change and legislate to the best of my ability on what should change and what should not.
Transcript for: THINK TANK WITH BEN WATTENBERG#1326 MISS MANNERSFEED DATE: September 22, 2005JUDITH MARTINOpening Billboard: Funding for Think Tank is provided by...(Pfizer) At Pfizer, were spending over five billion dollars looking for the cures of the future. I was dealing with peoples problems, but the deeper you get into them the more philosophical the bent. I have been in awkward situations where vegetarians have accused meat-eaters of being animal-killers and carnivores.
We have 12,000 scientists and health experts who firmly believe the only thing incurable is our passion. Additional funding is provided by the Bernard and Irene Schwartz Foundation, the Smith Richardson Foundation, and the Lynde and Harry Bradley Foundation. WATTENBERG: Did you have a specific idea to say Im going to do an advice column that you brought to the syndicator or brought to whoever? Students - on the streets, I assume have accused people of the exploitation of child labor.
And I said its not going to be as bad as you think, and they were kind enough to say it wasnt as bad as they thought. MARTIN: The good old days when we were young and everybody behaved and dont you wish you could go back? The spreading of dignity to people who were never treated with dignity before. I think it goes back to a kind of the hierarchy of jobs; everybody feels theyre not quite as important as they should be, and so well, Im not really working here; Im at leisure. I can dress as I please; I can talk as I please and of course I can go around criticizing other people which is what this writer wants to do, which is not a good idea. WATTENBERG: But America, sort of from its inception was regarded as a place that could be casual, where every man could... Benjamin Franklin made that point in Paris by refusing to wear a wig. MARTIN: The thing is to embarrass the waitress, but you dont do it rudely. But you can use them rudely and you can use them politely. I think a year can go by without me writing a letter, Dear Judith, so and so. Youre going to send off an email saying, Woops, Im so sorry.
Were not really doing business here; were really at leisure, were all friends, we celebrate one anothers birthday... But the idea that theres something demeaning about professional behavior and professional dress is a very interesting question. Sometimes the waitress makes a rude comment such as you to the woman you should be buying her lunch. Is there something tactful that I could say to the waitress to save his embarrassment? Im one of those guys who I mean, I love it when somebody sends me a personal handwritten note, but I always have the wrong stationery. It requires a dignified method, which is not to say that email isnt wonderful for a thousand different purposes.
With an i Pod probably not, and with a cell phone if they talk in a normal voice on the elevator where they could talk to other people, no; I dont. If you say what do you mean by political correctness? A lot of the new morality or the new etiquette or whatever, has to do with sex and I wonder a couple things. WATTENBERG: Having a code of etiquette this is a question; its not going to sound that way, but having a code of etiquette is a necessity for a civilization? They say, 'Yankee go home,' that we are Americanizing but at the same time theyre wearing blue jeans and sneakers and listening to our music and getting into our politics. MARTIN: We are the major etiquette influence in the world today, its very true. I mean, for instance, its an American concept that labor is dignified and that people who dont work are a little bit suspect... That was never a European idea and it was not an idea in many other cultures.
And so, people who condemn all kinds of things that they call political correctness find themselves in the peculiar position of defending the open expression of bigotry and insult and things like that. WATTENBERG: So you sort of opt out of that and yet, as we said in the beginning, youre really you call yourself Miss Manners but you might call yourself Miss Behave not Miss Behavior but Madam Behavior or whatever. There is a moral underlining to manners but the sex life is not part of that. The moral underlining has to do with how we get along in society and how we are able to have communities where we treat one another decently. WATTENBERG: What do you think about the idea that American manners, or American culture, because you really are thinking more about just specific etiquette, has sort of spread around the world. who live off the fat of the land, we think less of. WATTENBERG: Well not unless you had government control over what goes out on the network...
MARTIN: Political correctness is only used in connection with examples that have gone overboard. People have found that they are just as annoyed by other people and they try to legislate by law and the law is too clumsy and harsh to legislate everyday in little matters like that that ought to be left to etiquette. We see a lot of that around of people who are turn etiquette questions into crime on the highways. If you dont have that, the level of irritation rises to the point where people go nuts.