Would you consider the person you're dating a best friend? Studies indicate couples who consider one another best friends have an overall more fulfilling relationship.
“And keep in mind that your friend is most likely going to say 'go ahead', even if he doesn't mean it,” she says.
During the conversation, pay attention to your friend's non-verbal communication.
It took a few months before Jake and I began to hang out again.
But then one afternoon, after we'd both (independently) moved out of D. to return to New York, I was getting my hair cut at my old favorite place--Antonio Prieto--when it dawned on me that I was just down the street from Jake's new office.
Nana points to the story of her friend Katie, a 27-year-old Londoner who lost a friendship when an ex got involved. Tell him what his friendship means to you,” suggests Irene La Cota, president of dating agency It's Just Lunch International.
If you're swept up in love and you simply must date the ex of a close friend, experts recommend you sit your friend down. Even if it hurts your pride, check with him that it's OK. La Cota stresses the conversation is worth having if you really think the girl might be your 'special someone'.
(We had always been in tentative e-mail, even after the split.) I texted Jake, told him I was nearby, that I'd get out of the salon around 630--and did he want to grab a drink at that point? and luckily, after that, our friendship fell back into place fairly quickly.
And thank Buddha for that, because, have I mentioned I this person?
At the same time, after considering it for a minute or two, I realized that if I give it a try, my reluctance could create a weird dynamic which could very well do serious damage to the friendship--maybe as much as a failed romance would. --because there doesn't seem to be much else to explain it.