When I was actively online, I had the same situation.
I do agree with Evan, especially when it comes to the email after the date. I think it is because they are so lonely and want it to work with someone.
It is much safer than trying to be nice about in person. I have also made some friends because they were nice guys, but the “chemistry” wasn’t there. Not everyone likes everyone and it doesn’t mean the person is a loser, just didn’t work out and you get back out there!
When I was getting to know a few guys and narrowed it down to one, boy sometimes when I told a guy I was going to date the other and see where it goes, some had gotten so mad!
I knew then that I wasn’t going to bother with them again because they obviously had a quick temper!
You’re a great guy and I’m glad I had the chance to get to know you. You don’t have to do anything, except give him a slightly diluted version of the truth, so you don’t hurt his feelings when you reject him.
I’m sure you’re going to make some girl really happy one day. Sure, he can press you on WHY you didn’t feel it for him.I seem to have the opposite problem of most of the women in your blog when it comes to online dating – too much of a good thing!I get a fair number of interesting replies and first messages and there are two things I’m struggling with.None of us likes to be rejected, and if we have any empathy about us at all we’re uncomfortable inflicting pain and/or embarrassment on someone – especially since that person’s only crime is thinking we’re kinda neat. When I first signed up for back in 2010 I didn’t know the rules. It turns out that I much prefer being ignored to being acknowledged in cases of rejection.I remember feeling obliged, when I got a message from a woman who didn’t interest me, to try and craft a nice reply that didn’t make her feel bad about herself. If there’s no contact, it’s harder to take it personally.If you’re communicating with 7-10 decent guys in your inbox, that will usually result in about 2 dates.