If you took things a bit more slowly, you could actually get to know each other.
When the relationship stops being new, they’re panicking about what you may be expecting, and they’re sure of your interest, the desire loses its ‘erection’.
If you don’t hear from them again, they’ll have moved on and pressed The Reset Button with someone else…and lather, rinse, repeat.
Why do you need to demand so much of the person and the relationship so early on? Isn’t this all a bit like an elaborate prank that goes way too far?
But for those of you who get swept up in someone’s tide, you can enjoy yourself but it’s time you became aware of red flags, boundaries, and matching actions with words.
Originally scheduled as a lunchtime meet, it lasted all day and into the night.
The following day she said it felt like they’d known each other for weeks instead of hours. Another friend met a guy who she was half-heartedly interested in.If these people are still around in a year or two and your high intensity dalliance yields into something more steady, then good for you.However, the problem with people who fast-forward is that they can’t cope with steadiness.They either disappear when they start to feel panicky about the fact that you will want, need, and expect in line with the great show they have been putting on.Or…they just revert to the ‘real them’, ripping the rug from under your feet and replacing hot with cold and someone who you barely recognise. People who engage in Fast-Forwarding are Future Fakers, whether they directly do it by talking up a storm about plans or do it indirectly by behaving so intensely and putting so many demands on you (emotional, sexual, wanting to be with you all the time), that they let you believe that the level of intensity you are experiencing is what is on offer.In a startling number of stories, most of these people had some, if not a lot of reservations about the very person that was fast-forwarding them.