My hypothesis was simple: women who were looking for an extramarital affair with another married man were looking to connect in some way.If both parties were married, they not only started on even ground, but they had something in common—they were missing something from their current relationship.
But is it really so black and white, with no grey and no room for mistakes, missteps, or moments of weakness?
Do people who cheat want to leave their current marriage?
I signed up for a second Ashley Madison account as a woman, "Shelly," and began checking out the guys' profiles. I hadn't even added a picture or completed the profile for that persona.
Most of the men's profiles highlighted attempts at humor, asking straight-out for sex, to ... With a firm understanding of where my competition played—and the miserable approaches of some—I got to work writing something unique, confident, and (hopefully) mysterious and seductive.
And given the demographical split on the site, I was prepared to be searching and waiting for a number of days for interest or responses.
To my surprise, Cameron's profile had 20 messages on his first night.
I responded to a few messages, and before I knew it I was invited to a chat session with "Sexy Cat" (profile name changed to ensure her anonymity).
Sexy Cat wanted to know all kinds of things, and what I would do if given the opportunity. In each session, I attempted to take things to the next level—an in-person meeting—but no-go.
that kisses can start soft with cheek strokes, but end with the back of her hair being pulled in wild passion.").
Early Success Online dating is a complicated arena much like ordering fast food, in that what you get is never really what the picture and description promise.
but if commitment isn't there and loyalty becomes a matter of subjectivity or convenience, the marriage is already nonexistent.