Every girl deserves a good guy, but let’s be realistic–there’s only one Ryan Gosling, and he’s not available to most of us.
No, it’s not wrong to have standards, but are your standards impossible to reach?
What are the top things you would absolutely not be able to tolerate in a guy?
This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t have expectations, but unless all the stars magically align and the universe conjures up a guy who fits your specifications, you’re never going to be happy because there will be no guy who fulfills your detailed wish list.
Rewrite criteria on your list to be less specific, all while staying true to what you truly desire.
Remember: Standards are Important, but in the End, the Little Things Don’t Matter Estefania*, a rising junior at British Columbia Institute of Technology, didn’t ever imagine she would end up with her current boyfriend.
However, even though he didn’t fit the criteria of her ideal guy, he ended up changing her idea of who her ideal guy would be.
Are you so focused on your path to the perfect guy that you can’t see the imperfect-but-perfect-for-you guy outside your blinders?
Gillian*, a recent graduate of Kwantlen Polytechnic University, is familiar with friends who have sky-high expectations and says seeing them pass up good guys is frustrating. that we completely overlook the wonderful people who are right there in front of us,” she says.
Ask yourself why you want that specific quality, and rephrase your criteria to say what you really want.
For example, if you wrote, “must have a full head of hair,” the reason you probably wrote this is because you don’t think you could be attracted to a bald man.
If it’s essential that he’s a family guy, the fact that he is close to his mom and wants kids one day might be enough of a reason to overlook his crooked nose.