Be honest, open, creative and speak from the heart, and you’ll attract the same. With a bit of luck, they’ll be up to the challenge and excited to help you meet someone really special.They may even have had their own recent experience with online dating and may be able to offer some helpful, subjective tips and suggestions. You can write these yourself or you can have them answer some of the specific profile questions where you feel stuck in coming up with accurate responses that also highlight your best assets.But you’re not Luke Skywalker, and Bridget Jones got fucking lucky.
CAN’T-STANDS: ■ Negativity – I try to find a positive in everything and want someone who will do the same.
■ Selfishness – I’m looking for someone who knows how to be caring and giving towards their partner. If you’re comfortable being upfront about wanting to meet people online, consult a close friend or colleague who knows you really well and ask them to help you create the perfect representation of who you are.
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Creating a great online dating profile is a little bit like putting on makeup.
Creating the perfect online dating profile is much the same.
It’s about striking the perfect balance between authenticity – the act of truly being yourself – and good marketing.
but there’s no fucking way she’s swiping right on my ass)–a petite blonde with a smoking body and a great smile. But in person, interacting with her, I could tell she was interested–or would be if she wasn’t dating some fucking surgeon who I can almost 100% guarantee is an asshole (here’s the thing, doctors who aren’t assholes practice family medicine or do something where they interact with patients who aren’t passed out on an operating table–surgeons are the gunners who ruined the curve in your college biology class and threw classmates under the bus on their med school rotations). Like as in: shit–maybe I should’ve gotten her number interested. Not a chance in the world I get a girl that attractive to swipe right.
On my drive home, the realization sunk in that I was actually in the game with this beautiful woman. And therein lies one of the major problems with online dating: you can be a relatively attractive person, but when there are really, really, really good looking people out there, why swipe right on just relatively attractive? Because a lot of people like the Yankees, and it has nothing to do with whether or not that person is a suitable mate.
Most of us don’t, but that’s what we expect–which, in point of fact, is why so many attractive/eligible men are… This epiphany occurred to me yesterday as I was playing cornhole with my cousin’s incredibly attractive friend (no, no–not that kind of cornhole).