He joined the online dating site OKCupid six years ago, about three years before he transitioned.
On Mesh, people only see a trans person’s profile if they’ve already indicated they’re open to dating transgender people.
This has the potential to make online dating more thorough and more fruitful, but safety and acceptance for trans people who date online may take more than an algorithm.
In other words – among gay men – there may be a larger percentage of gender fluidity – or those who identify as somewhat more feminine than among straight men and the same with gay women. Indeed Freud remarked on the biological characteristics of gay men back in the early 1900’s.
Therefore it is possible to confuse or conflate sexual orientation with gender identity.
As La Mon noted, it all comes down to “the age-old question of when you disclose” your transgender identity.
La Mon prefers to be out about his gender with potential dates.From the beginning, she knew it was important to allow people to identify as queer and transgender in their profiles.The other Mesh founders, who are straight men, agreed. As soon as I explained to them why it was important, they got it,” Sleidi said.While some have criticized OKCupid for showing people false or manipulated content as an experiment, the site's failure to accommodate transgender users may be a larger and more long-standing ethical dilemma.In 2013, an online petition asking OKCupid to accommodate trans and genderqueer people received more than 1,000 signatures.Users can also tell Mesh if they are interested in meeting men, women, or everyone.