The fact that he knows I have trigger foods, like potato chips, means he won’t leave them in the house, but also that when I do have a binge eating episode, he is kind about it.Rather than berating me, he lets me talk it out and devise ways to not go down that path next time.
My boyfriend doesn’t “care” about my weight in the sense of wanting me to be a certain size, but he does want me to be healthy.
If I suddenly gained 20 pounds in a month for no apparent reason, he would ask me about it, but not in a menacing, shaming way.
I like ‘big’ guys, they see more of what is inside a woman, than just ‘being’ inside. im jsut physically attracted to heavy set tall men..........
Maybe it’s because they are looking for someone to see what a wonderful person they are on the inside, I don’t know. When you are large, and many women are not interested in you, it's ok because the ones who don't are not wasting your time. they are usually teddy bears inside and happy and loving.......arent into conceit and arent self centered..wahts on th inside that counts ...
I can get so hung up on a clothing size that I’ll buy a less flattering but lower number to make myself feel better.
I’ve even shied away from attending events when I felt I was simply “too fat” to fit into any of my clothes.But once we started dating, the kind of fat talk I’d regularly engaged in about myself, usually silently, wouldn’t cut it. When I feel like a failure about my body, that extends into other arenas, making me less enthusiastic about my writing, sure that, somehow, other people are making those same judgments.Knowing that he’s dealt with actual discrimination because of his size has forced me to ask myself tough questions when I do worry about my weight: namely, what am I really worried about? It’s a vicious cycle, so living with someone who simply doesn’t let himself care about what other people think is a constant revelation.Being bombarded with this type of faux-concern has given me empathy for what he and other fat people go through umpteen times a day, and just how unhelpful it is.To these people, being fat can’t coexist with being healthy, and if you truly want to “work on” the problem it can only mean dropping pounds, rather than rationally assessing how you move and eat.Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Can I hold a conversation with him that goes on forever?