Huston speculates that such early bliss makes people stick it out longer when the marriage takes a turn for the worse.
Surra found that couples in such unions report more conflict and greater uncertainty about the relationship.
While it's too early to tell whether the event-driven couples in Surra's study are more eager to call it quits, she suspects they will be.
They also brought a low maintenance approach to the relationship: in fact for many, the biggest attempt to rekindle an unpredictable romance was the marriage itself.
Many marriages in which the partners committed quickly and felt strongly enamored of one another survived to the seven-year mark.
In essence, if you spend three years dating before you tie the knot, you are much more likely to discover whether you are long-term compatible than a couple that falls in love, ties the knot, and tries to figure it out AFTER the wedding. The longer you date, the better you (should) know your prospective mate.
This is IMPORTANT news for both women in their 30’s who are feeling the pressure of time and women in their 50’s who feel like they have less time and more maturity so they should just KNOW better. Life is a marathon and slow and steady wins the race. The better you know your prospective mate, the better you should know whether or not you’re long-term compatible.
What about length of courtship and its effect on marriage?
In Huston's study, happily married couples dated for an average of 25 months.
In unions that did not last, there were interesting correlations between the length of the courtship and the length of the marriage.