: Although not a mistake per se, but more of a conditioning, the average guy gets paralyzed at the thought of getting verbally dirty with women [sexually]. Sparing you the drawn-out proceedings, I’ll get straight into the heart of the matter!The impact of course will be more profound if done in person as on a date or lying in bed with the girl.
You can send her the following txt dialogue [straight out of my phone with my girlfriend :)]: GF: “Lol, I don’t know what it is”. Be aware of your surroundings [have Social Intelligence]. [I then gave her a hi5 just to hold her hand a bit to establish KINO] Me: “So what’s in your glass”? With that being said: leave the heavy-dirty sex talk until you’re in person vis-a-vis with the girl.
Me: “Well you have to figure this out because I’m here with a hard on at work”. You cannot initiate sex talk while the target girl is within earshot of her girlfriends. Check out the following dialogue I’d recorded on audio [word for word] of a recent bar pickup of mines: Me: “Hey quick question; why is it that chicks in bars always choose Margaritas as their first drink of choice”? Maybe is because it’s a light drink and we want to start light”. Sure you can flirt over text or phone conversation, but keep it light in order to avoid making her feel slutty.
This is where the drunk guy goes wrong…although he has the right idea. Now, if this is a girl you’d already been on a date with and actually picked up in person, then it’s ok to get explicitly sexual over text and phone conversation.
However, it’s still much safer to keep it light until you meet her again for the day 2, date or meetup, where you can actually bang this girl when it’s all said and done.
That is how you introduce dirty talking while on a dinner date or any date for that matter. Generally, you can get away with murder when it comes to a girl you’ve already shagged. My crystal ball says that you’re thinking about sex on the beach right now. I’m popping a mean fucking boner just from having a casual chat with you”! It’d be pretty stupid to go up to a girl at the bar and say to her: “You have a nice ass and it’s getting my cock hard”. But for the average Joe reading this, an approach like that will totally crucify you and set off the creepy rape-alert inside the girl’s head.