The ur-evidence of this belief is the infamous Clark-Hatfield study, which was published in 1989 and replicated over and over again by You Tube pranksters as “social experiments” ever since.
Why put yourself through the joy of being mocked by someone who’s shaming you for the things they want you to do to But what if you could take the risk of social opprobrium, judgement and risk out of the mix?
How much would women’s responses to offers of casual sex change if their safety were guaranteed and nobody would find out?
I find you to be very attractive.” They would then ask the subject either to go on a date with them, to follow them back to their apartment or to skip the formalities and just go to bed with them.
In a turn of events that surprised literally no one, none of the women interviewed said “yes” to the offers of sex with a stranger while 3/4ths of the men did.
A woman’s response of “I have a boyfriend”, for example is taken as a challenge rather than as as soft no; PUAs are supposed to assume that this boyfriend is a fake and will mysteriously disappear when he’s demonstrated his higher value.
In practice what happens is that you end up getting men who are demonstrating that they are poorly socially calibrated and uncomfortably aggressive – suggesting that not only are they going to be shit in bed, but they’re potentially dangerous.One of the oldest canards – something I’ve written about before, in fact – is the idea that women don’t like sex, especially casual sex, as much as men do.It’s the subject of many a heated debate, the punchline to hacky comedians’ jokes and the background noise in movies and sitcoms since pretty much forever.Many PUAs who practice day game – that is, making cold approaches during the day in public venues instead of at night in a bar or club – will physically impose themselves in front of a woman in order to make her stop to talk to them and do a little dance to keep her from walking away.Others will consciously ignore soft no’s and refusals in the name of getting a woman’s number.But despite its flaws and mistaken conclusions, it hangs in as part of the accepted wisdom of gender relations.