"You don't need to share about your kids who are ungrateful, your bankruptcy case from five years ago or your gout," Palmer said. "Is he giving you the feelings that you've identified [are important to you] in your list?
"It's about reacquainting yourself with who you are today and what value you hold in a partnership," she said. The internal list we all have that makes finding your perfect partner as hard as lassoing a unicorn.
"A lot of people are still holding on to the old vision of themselves." 2. But holding on to that impossible list isn't fair to you or the men you date, Palmer said.
For all the positive stories of long lost loves and happily married couples we post on Huff/Post50, we know that many are finding themselves back in the dating game for the first time in years.
While you would think your age would translate into mature dating experiences, many women (and men) find themselves reliving their teen years when it comes to the dating world.
"Men don't want to chase women," Palmer said, laughing. men in their 50s and 60s know what they want, they know how to get it, so they don't go for the hard to get stuff." That doesn't mean you have to take the lead, Palmer said, but it does mean it's ok to show you're interested in the person. "They've been rejected since they were 14 years old at the dance.
We think we have to deal with rejection, but they've had it 100 times worse.
And a desire to love, to love fully and to have one's love fully received and cherished.
A common problem is that women think men are cut off from their feelings.
Unreliability and confusion do not have to be a part of your dating-over-50 experience, dating coach Bobbi Palmer told Huff/Post50.
"A lot of people who are dating in their 50s probably haven't dated since they were [in their 20s] -- they're paralyzed, they still have the old vision of themselves and the old vision of the boys they were dating," Palmer said.
Compassion is the key to having an enjoyable time when you're dating. "Rendezvous to romance." So you've fallen in love with yourself, created a more realistic and flexible list of the traits you'd like in a partner, broadened your social circle and got the date with a man you're attracted to... "On a first and second date you're not trying to figure out if you're going to marry him," Palmer said with a chuckle. " Fast forward to a future version of yourself who's a few dates in with this new man.