If it happened, it happened; if it never did, then fine, cool, whatever — it wasn’t a milestone on my life plan.
As Radar previously reported, the 55-year-old father of four went public with girlfriend Caryn Chandler, the family’s longtime farm manager, in a sweet post over the weekend.
While many followers congratulated Matt, others slammed him for dating someone who was once friends with his 52-year-old ex-wife, Amy, and their grown children. Moving on is fine, but this is tacky and obvious,” another fumed.
I realize that my past experiences have made me who I am today, but I still wish I could go back in time and have a sisterly chat with poor, clueless, "younger me" about relationships.
I could've written three novels, started a business, and hiked the Appalachian Trail with all the wasted time and energy.
I have had longer relationships, and thus known other men “better,” but what I see as important and necessary to a healthy relationship, isn’t the same as when it was at 23, when I was in my last serious relationship. We’re both artists, liberals, feminists, atheists, and have strong connections to our family.
We want the same things for each other, for the people we love, and for the world around us.As for fears that this is just about a green card — I don’t want to permanently live in Paris, nor does he want to permanently live in New York City. The rational side of me will always argue that love is a chemical reaction within human beings that forces us to, ultimately, keep the species going, but the romantic side of me, the one I’ve only recently discovered, has put rationale on the back burner.Our partnership is a give and take, and neither one of us is requesting that we give up our individual lives in our respective cities. But really, why did I accept his proposal of marriage with an overwhelming “Hell, yeah! Sometimes you just need to go with it, and not debate or over-analyze the “this and that” of things.After that, our relationship was based on texts, email and lots of video chats.We had decided that we were going to try to make it work despite the huge distance between us.Even a year ago, I would have balked at the idea of getting engaged so soon, but when you find someone with whom you want to share your life, certain things just click into place.