It shouldn't have been a surprise that the men who contacted me would be the same. What I learned is that there are three questions many men ask themselves when viewing your profile usually in this order: 1. At best you look ashamed to be online, at worst, like a crazy recluse with nobody willing to take your photo. Are you leaning against a wall with your butt sticking out? Also, don't post photos where you cut out your ex-boyfriend people can always tell. Another option is to post a photo where you're out with a friend (just one, not a crowd) looking happy and social.It turns out that I made the same mistake most girls do when they first go online. Are you half naked with your hands caressing your hair? You had your hair and make-up done, and the professional photography is awesome. Here's what the guys hear you saying: All my friends are married but me. Think of your photos as the cover of your autobiography.“I love a boss babe — a woman who is taking care of business, like myself.
Your profile picture is the first thing any potential match sees before reading into your personality and hobbies, so it's SUPER important.
If you're on any online dating sites, you know that everything you post on your profile is VITAL ... Therein lies the key to some dating traction (and maybe even a future husband).
“I was writing my relationship book about what attracts a man to a woman and a woman to a man, but I hadn’t dated in 10 years,” the author of says.
“My fiancé said to really understand, you’re going to have to go there and experience dating.” And de Comarmond did, with her fiance’s blessing.
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According to Serena de Comarmond, Australian Matchmaker and owner of I Heart Matchmaking, the one you decide to use on your Tinder profile influences the kind of men you attract on the popular dating app.
I'd like to know what I'm getting before we meet up." That's an actual quote from an email I received on So in short, here are the dos and don'ts of profile photos: DON'T post photos where you look psycho. All of this says just says, "Please pay off my credit card debt." DON'T post photos that are 10 years old or don't look like the current you. DO post a full-body shot in which you are doing something athletic.
It's also the email that sent me on a half-hour-long rant to two (very straight) guy friends here in San Francisco. The following week I received 400 emails, which was not only an overwhelming increase from my weekly average of 40-50, but it also yielded many of the nice men I was looking for. No photos where you have a manic gleam in your eye, or where you seem drunk or even where you're looking arty and contemplative (trust me, you just seem depressed). You want to meet guys who are attracted to you as you are. Don't give away where you currently live, work or go to school (college logos, for example), and NEVER show your home address. You could be at the top of a hike, riding a bike or just jumping in the air.
"He sent me a message that said, ‘Hi, you are really hot, do you want to have sex?
' and that’s putting it in a diplomatic way,” she recalls with a laugh.
You can flaunt your feminine side as well to make those men swoon!