Back when I identified as a gay man, my short stature was a liability, since the mainstream gay world is into tall, muscular guys.
says, “Male height is associated with high mate value.
In particular, tall men are perceived as more attractive, dominant and of a higher status than shorter rivals, resulting in a greater lifetime reproductive success.” That same study found that “Tall men reported greater relationship satisfaction and lower levels of cognitive or behavioral jealousy than short men,” and that short men engage in different “mate retention behaviors” than tall men.
Brett: I'm 5'8", so I've always felt I'm in this weird middle ground of not really knowing if I'm "short" or not.
I mean, the average American male is technically at 5'10", so by that measure I'm shorter than average, but should I self-identify as "short"?
So when people inevitably criticize me for taking men's comments about my height too personally, I'm the first to agree. And I haven't worked this hard to love my body for some guy to nonchalantly tell me how to feel about it over a gin and tonic.
Meredith: I'm a trans woman who's 5'5", so average height for women in the States and shorter than most trans women I know.
And since I also have a wider frame, I've always felt a bit stockier than I'd like.
That's low-key why I always feel the need to have my hair with a bit of body — to make up for lost ground.
It's hard to ignore something as obvious as height, especially if it makes a person stand out.