In France, Germany and Belgium, it's common for the man to ask a woman out, but in Switzerland, the men can be a little reserved so women might want to give them a nudge.For French men, it's all about the chase, and playing ‘hard to get' is part of the game.
I don’t like having to wonder if my date is interested in being in a relationship with me, and dating isn’t very fun because of the games involved in the process.
On the other hand I like that American men are more chivalrous than Japanese men and will do things like pay for dates and hold the door open for me. Has your dating experience in Japan been different than in your home country?
In Europe, getting to know someone romantically is fairly laid back.
People don't tend to go on ‘dates' with complete strangers but instead often get to know someone who's already in their circle or the friend of a friend, and then it ‘just happens' and they decide to go out together alone. There aren't too many rigid rules, either: "In the Netherlands there are no set rules – you might do all or nothing on the first or tenth date," and, "the timescale between the first date and having sex in France could be anything from 20 years to 20 seconds," said European expats.
Growing up in Japan my parents were really strict and so I didn’t get an opportunity to start going on dates until after I graduated from high school.
I did have a Japanese boyfriend but I ended things with him to go to school in California.
Among Japanese teenagers the most basic way of starting to date someone is by giving them a “kokuhaku” or love confession.
This sounds a bit creepy but it’s not so much telling someone you love them but rather the Japanese way of letting them know you like them and asking them out.
This was a little strange to me because I wasn’t sure what to do if I was really into someone.