You have lived 40 years of your life a certain way.
Men in their 40s add: “Women over 30 have stopped putting metal through their lips and tongues which makes it easier to kiss them.
The image of men in their 40s, 50s, and 60s chasing after women half their age has driven many woman over 40 into my office.
) As a woman over 30, I decided to try to get to the bottom of this conundrum by asking a series of straight, unmarried men in their 20s, 30s, 40s and 50s to find out why some actually prefer to date “older” women.
Turns out, there’s lots to love about women of a certain age.
Men don't seem to have it so well either, with men over the age of 40 having only a 12% chance of marrying.
So, exactly how do you even find someone to date after you're 40?
Are there men who will seek out a younger woman given the opportunity? Is it a reality that by the time a woman reaches 65 her gender outnumbers single men 2 to 1? So are those the biggest factors that contribute to women over 40 having a hard time finding a match. In my 10 years as an online dating coach it’s become clear that the reasons why older women fail at online dating can be broken down into 4 major factors: mindset, lifestyle, chivalry, and algorithms.
I often hear clients say, “There are no good men in ______.” (Insert whichever city, the problem is the same.) The client believes that since they haven’t been able to find good men or they aren’t approached by as many men as they were in their 20s or 30s that it means that the well of good men in their town has totally dried up.
That is all part of the process of becoming aware and mindful of your thoughts.
After a week or two of changing your mantras, you will likely notice you are also, quite literally, changing your mind.
In September, a study of 12,000 Finns reaffirmed what prior research had already established. If dudes were really so set on their caveman-era mating habits, wouldn’t we see more single ladies over 30 home knitting tea cozies on Friday nights?