Ray attempts to give his callous actions a sheen of respectability by examining the subconscious motives - as though there was anything more than a desire for meaningless sex.
He believes he was seeking to withdraw from his wife because he could not bear the thought of her dying.
Every Friday was the same, I went out with my friends looking for a woman.
I’ve seen the pictures of their wedding – Tim looking uncomfortable in a suit and Jane in a simple dress and headscarf. But the most remarkable thing I learnt from all those post-breakfast conversations was that Jane made Tim promise that after she’d gone he wouldn’t stay on his own; he would go out and meet someone else.
I learnt that she was shy and quiet and took a long time to get to know someone well. He didn’t want to admit that his wife was going to die but she insisted they talk about it.
But it hasn’t been like that for me, partly because of who Tim is, but also because of the person Jane was and what she did before she died.
Tim and Jane were together for 14 years but married for only two of those, after her diagnosis.
I was possibly more nervous about meeting Sarah than before my first date with Tim. It was Sarah who reassured us both that what was happening was good and happy, and it was Sarah who, a couple of years later, encouraged Tim to move in with me.
I thought I had a lot to live up to, but I’m not a best-friend replacement, I couldn’t ever be that. It’s just that Jane, the linchpin who brought us together, is missing, but what does feel odd is that if she had never gone missing I wouldn’t know Tim or Sarah."I would go to bars with a group of friends, but I wasn't there to catch up with them - drinking with them was simply a preparation for the night ahead."I was constantly on the lookout for another woman.How will the story stack up against the greatest films about business?How does a man help his young wife reclaim her dignity when she is suffering from cancer?His relationship status on the dating website was “widower” and his age 39.