There are always going to be people in your life, pasts to each person and surprises behind closed doors.
Mature couples, however, do not feel threatened by strangers and past lovers.
Dating someone younger—whether you’re two or three years his senior or are talking cougar territory—certainly can work (look at Eva Longoria and her 4-years younger beau), but being an “older woman” in a relationship does tend to come with certain perks and downfalls.
If you want to make things work, be sure you can handle the following. Men reach their sexual prime in their twenties due to a spike in testosterone, while women typically reach theirs in their 30s and 40s.
Mature couples don't “fall in love,” they step into it. How can you tell if your relationship is in it for the long haul or the two-month plummet everyone predicted behind your love-obsessed back? Drama is for people who don't know how to have a relationship — who live by idealistic, preconceived notions that love must be wild and obsessive. It's something that happens naturally; it doesn't need to be fought for day in and day out. A mature relationship lives by this peace of mind; immature ones drown in it. It burns dimly when you're together, but you wave it off with sex and constant chatter. The love between the two mature people fills every crack in the fiber of their being they didn't know they had.
Love isn't something you fall for; it's something you rise for. First, it should be easy, from the beginning to end. When you love someone, and he or she loves you, and there's no doubt to his or her feelings and no doubt to yours, that's peace of mind. Immature relationships are formed by two incomplete people. They are two people looking for something that can't be found in another person.
Add the fact that younger guys have more stamina, and you just may have a match made in orgasm heaven.“A younger man has more energy and is more willing to try things,” says Lindsay Slosberg, dating expert for the app Let’s Date.
“In turn, doing new things increases dopamine in the brain, triggering a desire to spend more time together and assisting in lighting your sexual fire.”An even bigger bedroom bonus?Falling denotes lowering oneself, dropping down and being stuck somewhere lower than where you started. Love isn't like that — at least not with people who are doing it right. Because love is either a passing game, or it's forever. There are no passionate fights with passionate make-up sex. They dominate each other, force themselves together and make one flawed mesh of a human. They are two individual people looking to make two better people. It's the calmest place in your life, the safest blanket you've ever worn. It eats away at you when you go to sleep or leave each other for just a few hours. There is never a feeling that something has been taken away or is leaving with the other person.Younger men are as adventurous outside of the bedroom as they are inside it, and they’ll bring out a more youthful, vibrant side of you, says Lori Bizzoco, founder and executive editor of Cupids “He will see you as smarter and worldlier, so he’ll want to please you, not just physically but emotionally and intellectually,” she says.“He’ll come up with creative date ideas that bring back romance and youth, and make you feel empowered and appreciated.”When you enter into a new relationship, it’s no secret you’re bringing former boyfriends along with you. “Men can have preconceived notions about women and relationships based on past experiences,” says Samantha Daniels, a professional matchmaker and president of Samantha's Table Matchmaking.They are confident in their love and their partner's love. They're delusional and paranoid because their love is superficial.