Rihanna’s “We Found Love” explicitly defines how we started: We did find love in a hopeless place.
I was on a Christmas holiday in Singapore, and I met him in a popular club in Tanjong Pagar.
His pragmatic and critical thinking would often clash with my idealistic and emotional thoughts, but we always tried to strike a balance.
We exchanged numbers, went on a date the following day, and then I revealed that I am a Filipino residing in Kuala Lumpur.
It wasn’t a big deal for him, and we continued dating for the rest of my four-night stay in the Red Dot.
We would go on Skype every single night and text on Watsapp every time we had the opportunity even if he was doing his National Service and even if he was on a business trip overseas.
Every time we were together, we would spend our day looking for the best hawker centers in Kuala Lumpur or in Singapore, and end up splurging on chicken rice, bah kut teh, yong tau foo, and pan mee just to name a few.
However, time and distance managed to get the best of us and our long-term aspirations.
Residing and working in Singapore were a part of my plan, which we shared, but the current immigration policies and conditions in that country, particularly the barrage of hate blogs, made it difficult for us to work out our plan.He is not the stereotypical Singaporean who peppers every line with “lah” or “loh.” Though not the sweetest person in the world, he personifies my ideal partner—a holistically stable guy, caring, profound, and simple yet oozing with sex appeal and intelligence—except for the fact that we were 300 kilometers away from each other.Still, he was the best Christmas present I got in 2012.Well, with his Singaporean mindset, he found my reasons rubbish, as well as immature and irresponsible.That was why I fell in love with him in the first place.Together, with his drive and my passion, we made it to five Asean countries in seven days, and roughly 50 European landmarks in 19 days.