He denied it all along, if hed had the guts to be honest I could have maybe dealt with didnt and I am totally devestated.we have kids together and had a great sex life I have just found that my partner of4 years has cheated on me with a woman he met on the internet.well a few years ago I would have said no it's not cheating.
He has stopped the physical abuse but I still experience some verbal and emotional abuse (his lies) altho not as bad as before.
Cyber Sex is not conducive to a good marriage - IMHO For the past 3 months I have been having cybersex.
HMMM I am so crazy in love with this man and I find myself doubting my own judgement. He says he has stopped but now I find that he has lied to me about cancelling his subscriptions to dating websites. The pain and devastation has destroyed my live and my children's live. My first time cyber sex was a few moments ago and I feel like I may have made a mistake, and if I feel guilty then it was wrong of me to do so.
Engaged for a month and I'm not for sure if I can go through with this. She even got off the phone with me as I was driving 1500 miles back to her. It's cheating and the worst kinds because it involves mental effort to engage in the activity. I'm cutting it here while it is new, to long have I loved her to simply let it all collapse over something as stupid as this, and better now then to let it escalate to something problematic. So I'm going to go with yes, once it gets out of hand it is cheating.
My rule of thumb on this is one of the oldest and still one of the best.
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you?I spoke to him about this and he says he was only messing with their heads.However now the business trip has been cancelled... She even got off the phone with me as I was driving 1500 miles back to her" MEANT to say got off phone with me to cyber some dude who now I've found out she's called twice. I was five months pregnant when i found out that my partner was involved in cybersex. I wasn't sure if it was or not, all I know is that sex drive makes you think silly things like (it isn't real so it's okay), but once it is all over a sense of guilt falls over you.Sometimes with random strangers and sometimes with regular people. We used to have a great sex life but now his libido is gone.He's not gay, not seeing anyone else, has no medical/emotional problems..I am still attractive and interesting.He went on to meet her in person said he didnt find her that attractive but carried on with cybersex and phone sex for a further 2 months.