Interacting with the opposite sex became this pressure-filled, awkward, sinful-feeling give and take that left me feeling confused, impatient, and totally lacking control. A relationship that caused heart-ache, heart-break, and a whole lot of wasted time.
I bought into the theory that dating was wrong and that the only way to find God’s one and only match for my life would be to wait for some sort of sign from God. Though I wish I could change my relationship history, my choices make sense in the context of my former belief system.
You as an individual are fully responsible and accountable to God for what you do (Romans -12; 2 Corinthians ). Make your moral decisions in advance—not in the time of temptation.
If it’s left to your feelings in the moment of truth, you’ll make the wrong decision.
If a Christ-centered, positive relationship develops, then you might move to cautious displays of affection such as hand-holding.
But be alert to the difference between appropriate affection and intimacy. Plan the entire evening in advance, with no big gaps.
Again: in the moment of strength make choices that will serve you well in the moment of weakness. Memorize Scripture on sexual purity and quote it when tempted.
“I have hidden your Word in my heart that I might not sin against you” (Psalm 1).What do you want them to be doing now with someone else?“Do to others as you would have them do to you” (Luke ). Look out for the “moral wear down” of long dating relationships and long engagements.I repressed my desire for dating and relationships with the opposite sex, and decided that courtship was the “holier” course of action for my life. The problem with my immature mentality is that it left no room for error, and that’s how I’d been trained to think.I bought into the lie that instead of actually DEALING with my fear of failure, or my fear of making mistakes, I could just sit back and do nothing, and pray that God would magically bring me a spouse. Afraid of failure and of playing the dreaded dating game, I decided to stay in a relationship for far longer than I should have.It’s easy to wear down in the battle for sexual purity, to begin to rationalize that you’re really a couple.