Sometimes comic, sometimes a monster, always successful, this character leaves behind a string of broken hearts, and occasional vows of revenge that are rarely fulfilled.Casanova's only motivation is indulging his lust and desire, sating them with the bodies of his conquests.
It should be noted that the historical Casanova was closer to a Chivalrous Pervert who really was looking for love...
just with women who were locked in loveless political marriages — and also gained his successes famously ugly.
You can see how this leads to perpetual stress for everyone involved!
What might break this cycle is a loving and empathetic intervention when he feels bad about wanting something he doesn't have.
We can talk some more about how that might sound during a phone consultation if you'd like.
If he experienced some kind of separation or trauma at a young age, there are therapies that can repair and restore whatever was disrupted in his development and re-awaken his empathy. Bruce Perry's work is well regarded on this subject.
The scariest thing is through all the consequences, through all the rewards, through all the extra attention and ‘time-in’, he just doesn’t care.
He will look you straight in the eye and say “I stole, I know it is wrong” with no remorse, no care.
I'm not sure how you found me, but if you are in the Boulder area, I can suggest some therapists who have excellent reputations for unwinding trauma responses that impair normal functioning. I commend you for your dedication and motivation in continuing to search for something that will work.
You are surely a blessing to your family, and I hope you can find some time to nurture yourself in the midst of this very challenging situation.
He then feels bad because he really wants love and approval and doesn't have it.