Too often I’m not available for dating and even daygaming here in Warsaw. So it seems that I have encountered new and unexpected circumstances.
There are two main reasons behind that and while there not exactly the same, they’re connected.
First, I did about two thirds of my usual number of sets, which obviously means that I have less leads to choose from, and a smaller chance to hit a “yes girl”. And I’m not talking eurojaunts even that my fascination with Ukraine is taking a significant amount of time (I did much worse there compared to last year).
Get more leads and cherry-pick those that will be in line with my new circumstances (spending less and less time in Warsaw) and then do not half-ass the dates.
If we haven’t ended in bed then at least she has to know it’s going to happen next time.
He did two things differently: he was pushing really hard and really fast (because he doesn’t live here the girls know it’s “now or never”) and he did a lot of sets trying to find out same day lay prospects. My mindset so far comes from the abundance of leads and my abilities to get virtually any number of new leads whenever I want to. It was a perfect approach to shape my womanizing new self but I think it outlived its usefulness. I’m confident that whenever I want I can find viable leads and fill out all my dating slots for a given week. I’m not focusing on getting laid fast, I’m focusing on dating quality girls.
It is true that you get what you aim for – I have a number of casual relationships and I’m dating new girls but everything is managed from the point of “filling up the dating slots”. To be honest, I don’t go out at all when I know I won’t have the time to pursue new leads. I need to stop daygaming to fill up the dating slots.
Some of the most attractive set of behaviours a man can display are born from having an Abundance Mentality.
Having an Abundance Mentality is the exact opposite of neediness – the least attractive quality.
Of course that comes with massive LMR problems (that he had) and it requires you to focus on girls where SDL is possible, better yet – probable (which he did).